You feel like you constantly have to hold back certain aspects of yourself in order to "keep the peace."
You have these deep, dark aspects of yourself that are begging to come out.
Yet you hold them in, lock them away and repress them for fear of judgement and ridicule.
Then, you get triggered by someone or something, and you loose your temper or you break down completely. You don't know what came over you. You never act like that. Everyone says you're always so calm, agreeable and never get upset.
You feel the shame and guilt wash over you, and vow to never show that side of you ever again. Until the next time.
You can learn to stop this process in it's tracks, so you don't have to bottle these emotions up waiting for them to explode.
You keep these parts locked away hoping that if you ignore them or repress them, you can avoid flying off the handle.
Other people's behavior, the "incompetent driver" in traffic, or the smallest inconvenience make you snap.
You feel out of control, unable to keep your cool.
And later when you take time to reflect, you wonder where that even came from. You don't normally act that way.
All your attempts to hold your emotions in always end up failing...
leaving you feeling ashamed, guilty and building up more walls of defense to reign it in.
You feel anger, resentment or frustration bubble up inside of you when something happens that you weren't expecting. You're taken completely out of your element, leaving you feeling out of control.
It happens to all of us, but we don't see that because we are told as a society to hold it together and not show these shadows.
You feel like you don't have any power over your own reactions, and that people & situations run the show. Having someone in your corner to help you move through that will get you back to peace faster.
You have tried it all...
You have tried meditation, thinking positive thoughts, and you've even searched for affirmations and inspirational quotes, and probably have even taken courses to help you be "more high vibe."
While raising your frequency helps you in the moment, it's not a permanent solution for the triggers that lie waiting inside ready to explode at any moment.
You can learn how to stop reacting to things outside for yourself, and keep your cool.
You can stop this pattern in it's tracks.
No more emotional explosions.
Regain control of over your reactions.
Stop feeling the guilt, shame and resentment for the darker parts of you.
Live in alignment, feeling joyful every day.
See the power these darker parts hold, and learn how to turn them into parts you can love and accept.
Keep your power.
It's not easy to face these triggers on your own.
Sometimes it's helpful to have a third person perspective to point you to what might be coming up in these tough moments. You're not always going to be able to see the painful pattern, or the mindset that keeps you stuck.
Allowing me to guide you through the process and to hold space for what is being brought up for you in a judgement free zone can help you turn these shadows into strength.
When you're used to holding in all of these shadows, it's hard to see the good that can come from releasing them and turning them into aspects of yourself you can accept.
I can share my best tips and strategies, including my 4 step shadow work process, with you.
Shadow Support can give you the guidance you need in the moment during a trigger, or as aftercare when you're feeling the shame and guilt creep in. While this is not a substitute for therapy, it can help you learn how to process, transmute and accept your shadows so you can live more in alignment, and see the beauty in yourself.
Even in your shadows.
THE PROCESS
Identify the Shadow
We explore where it came from, and what exactly is making you upset.
Describe it
We name the actions and emotions that are coming up.
Embody the Shadow
Recognize what aspects of yourself you've been hiding.
Transmute it
Turn the shadow into aspects of yourself you can accept.
It's not always about love and light.
Being human comes with it's own set of complications, and part of that is having shadows. These aspects are often overlooked because we repress them out of shame, guilt and wanting to bee seen as "nice" and "calm" or even "put together."
Notice how you cringe when a kid breaks down in the middle of the store for all to see. Or how angry you get when that one politician you hate is on the news. These reactions all point to something in you that you are passionate about, and Shadow Support can help you identify what that is so you can stop letting these events ruin your day.
Tapping into your intuition and acting from your "highest self" is nearly impossible when the littlest inconvenience has you flying off the handle. You can't bypass the darkness inside and think you'll fool the universe into seeing you as light.
Until you can process these dark parts and turn them into light, you won't be experiencing true peace, joy or alignment.
I thought my emotional ups and downs were normal.
I knew that I was experiencing all kinds of emotions, but I didn't know that not processing them was hindering my spiritual growth. Not accepting these shadow parts of myself that brought on these emotional activations just made me (and everyone around me) miserable.
It wasn't until I understood why I was reacting so much to certain situations that I was able to start responding instead. I can now keep my cool, take back my power and accept the parts of myself that I've rejected for so long.
I've spent the last 5 years working through shadows.
It wasn't easy either. I was the type of person you had to walk on eggshells around because I was like ticking time bomb. No one knew when I would blow up or start sobbing.
I held a lot of rage, irritation and impatience for people. My past had led me to believe that I was a victim of my circumstances, and I gave my power away to any situation that caused even the slightest annoyance or upset.
I was tired of never knowing how my day was going to go or if I'd have a breakdown. I wanted a way to feel more joy, not get so triggered by everything, and actually live in a way that brought me closer to my loved ones instead of pushing them away.
That's when I found Shadow Work, and started to use the 4 step process I teach you to understand what I was feeling, why, and how I could use it to live life in alignment.
What you've tried before isn't working.
You've been told to connect to your higher self, but you don't even know who that is.
You aren't able to hear your intuition talking over the (sometimes literal) screams of your shadows.
Meditation, thinking positively and affirmations only focus on the light aspects of you, leaving the shadow to be completely ignored and running in your subconscious unattended, until you lose control again.
Your shadows live in your mind rent free like the roommate you didn't ask for. Time for you to actually deal with them, or kick them out.
You don't have to continue to go through this.
You're ready for Shadow Support if
You want to stop being triggered by other people's behavior.
You want to take back your power and let stuff go.
You are ready to gain control over your reactions so that you don't have to spike your blood pressure.
You want to be able to remain calm under pressure, so you can handle things that pop up with ease.
EnrollShadow Support is not a fit for you if
You don't want to face these aspects of yourself.
You want to remain a victim of your circumstances.
You want to let the world rule your emotions and keep you from living joyfully and in alignment.
You aren't ready to love & accept all the aspects of yourself, and see the beauty in these dark parts.
REVIEW
"QUINTINA IS THE BEST. Seriously. She is so sweet, so understading and still makes you know your worth and what you're hiding from! She read my brain, told me things I seriously needed to hear, and it was amazing watching her glow from the inside doing what she is called to do. BOOK WITH HER, she will show you how you have the power to love your life!"
- Sienna
Get support to work through your shadows when you need it. Choose either one time coaching or dive in to a total transformation with a monthly investment.
Work through your triggers in real time or when you are trying to process them.
Imagine being able to keep your cool when situations arise that you weren't expecting. It's going to feel so good when you can keep a level head, and not let things outside of you take away your joy.
You can learn to love and accept all the parts of you, and see that they are just pointing you to what you need and desire. Your shadow has a purpose, and we can uncover it, and turn it into a strength.
Testimonial
"Let me just say that things make so much more sense to me now. To have someone explain my own mind and body to me in the ways that she did were incredible to say the least. There's no denying the gift she has."
- Jacquie
